Uganda Trip: Safari

The fourth phase of our trip to Uganda was a safari in Queen Elizabeth National Park, just an hour's drive from Kasese town where we were staying. We had planned to start the day early (5am) but our driver was missing in action until pretty much at dawn (7am). It is recommended to hit up the park before dawn if you want to see big cats before they retreat further into the park for the day. And we did ...

As soon as we got into the park, boom! A pride of 6 or so cubs and lionesses, along with this male lion, way off in a distance, returning from a hunt. The rest of the morning offered up baboons, water buffalo, hippos, kob, elephants, pelicans and flamingos, warthogs, and more.

Sadly we didn't see zebras, rhinos and giraffes because a few years ago they were relocated 8 hours north from this park to Murchison Falls National Park. But it was nonetheless exciting to see wild animals on their turf (as opposed to the zoo).

In August when we toured, it was the conclusion of a dry and dusty season in the park, with rumors of heavy rain in the air. By about 10am, it's so hot that you will scarcely see animals in the Park. So we headed up to Mweya for lunch and to await our next adventure. Mweya has two restaurants: the hotel being a whole lot more expensive than the lodge. Earlier on, we had managed breakfast at a small community deep inside the Park. Apparently, the park has various communities where people have settled within the game reserve. It is a common for wild animals to show up their front yard, and people cohabit among them without problems.

Later in the afternoon, we hit up Kazinga Channel (connecting the two main lakes that are part of the Park, Lake George and Lake Edward. Can you tell yet that Uganda was a British colony? Everything is named after the Queen and British royalty.
We toured the Channel aboard a water vehicle (called a "launch"), with other tourists and a Park guide pointing out various sights of interest.

On this leg of the tour, you may see water eagles, crocodiles, big lizards, an assortment of birds, hippos, elephants, various animals showing up to drink, and "losers" (buffaloes or hippos that have been kicked out of their herds, or are too injured to keep up. They seek sanctuary in the shallows of the lakes, until they die). I can not remember what else we saw after my camera went dead, with no battery backup. The 80x optical zoom was great for some of my shots, but terrible for battery life. The pictures I have from this day represent a little more than half of what we saw that day. Uganda is definitely rich of wildlife, well worth the day.

As far as costs go, you will usually pay for the safari vehicle (but we had our own), separately for a tour guide (supposed to know where the animals are in such a huge park), gate fees for each vehicle (we had two), and park fees for every person except babies (around 8 of us). For foreigners, park fees are about $90 (for Angelene, although I don't recall them checking passports). As a Ugandan passport-holder, I paid an equivalent of $30. All the other tour activities might have cost around $400 in total. By this time in the trip, we were no longer keeping track of our expenses, so this is an educated guess.
We also brought our own iced water along for how hot it gets out there. We managed a nap for Moses in between adventures, but a long day overall for him. A whole day in the wild like this (and in a vehicle) is not conducive for young babies who won't remember a shred of it.

But what do we say about phase four of the trip? Success! Many thanks to my sister Esther and brother Zablon for organizing the day, and accompanying us throughout. We became tourists for a day.

Uganda Trip: House and Land

What trip goes without disappointments ever? Not this one! The first setback was having no battery juice for the camera on the day we visited my land and also inspected my house. Although I had 3 battery packs for backup, I had forgotten to bring along their charger. As such, there are no current pictures of the house (except the glib below) and none of the land.

The second disappointment was the size of my house. It turns out that on my father's orders, the house had been shrunk from the size called for on the blueprint I kept back in the US, mostly because he thought it was too big. I had not been informed of this change beforehand, only finding out when I commented that the house looked smaller than I thought. Its length was reduced by more than 35 feet, for example, and while the floor plan was kept the same, all the rooms are proportionately smaller than I would like. In fact, we'll end up not having enough dining/living room space and must lose one of the bathrooms because the shrinking left it practically a sliver barely enough to fit a toilet seat. To say I was supremely pissed doesn't describe enough how I felt. If it wasn't near completion, I would have sought to tear down the house and start all over -- to specification (and maybe a different floor plan). Nonetheless, I will work with what we have there.

The house is in the background, seen from the front.

What is left to do about the house are final touches, painting, and furnishing. The doors and windows will need to be redone, the landscaping and grounds spruced up. The plan is to put the house up for rent or set it up as a (tourist) guest house when it is complete, until we retire into it.

The land is out in the village, about 70 miles away from Kasese town (where the house is) off the road towards the border with the Democratic Republic of Congo. My mother has done an excellent job maintaining and growing all kinds of staples on it. The only problem I see with it is that it is landlocked and not near the main road. To reach it, you must traverse small paths along other people's land. The plan at this point is to buy the piece of land directly in front of mine (between mine and the main road), or find another nearby that is next to the main road. Land is exponentially more expensive in that area, in what seems like a "land rush" of sorts. Those with bigger chunks of land are growing eucalyptus trees or pepper for export, amidst the usual subsistence crops. So it might take a little while for the landowner in front of me to sell, or for us to find another suitable piece of land adjacent to the road. But whenever that happens, our plan is to build another house and setup poultry farming on it. Poultry is surprisingly a good business in the area, both for eggs and meat.

When we went to visit the land (in background).

The takeaway from this third phase of the trip is that seeing things with your own eyes makes all the difference. I had seen pictures and taken Skype tours of the house and land, but my expectations were still quite different than the reality (especially with the house). But having seen it all, I'm better prepared to plan for and direct development of these properties. I was not impressed with the house, but I like the prospects of the land.

Further out, this is where we plan to retire: into that house (and the new one on the piece of land we are yet to acquire), and to farm the land we own. In retirement, we imagine we will spend half the year in the States with family and grand kids, and escape the colder months to Uganda for a season of farming (cultivation through harvest of some crop). Until then though, we'll visit the country every 2-4 years, do vacations or holidays with family there, or find missionary opportunities in that part of the country. It is a growing trend for Americans to retire abroad, and we are jumping on that bandwagon. We envision our retirement (30 years away still) to be quite active and full of travel or mission work, God willing.

Uganda Trip: On the Ground

We had made arrangements for private transportation throughout the 12 days of our trip. In Uganda, it is best to hire a driver with the vehicle, and provide the gasoline, which might cost about UGX 250k/day (or $70/day inclusive). This enabled us to maintain our itinerary and travel more freely, avoiding crazy public transportation (taxis and buses).

Although we had brought an infant car seat for Moses (free checked luggage on KLM flights), we used it only in the beginning. It is not the rule there for infants to travel in car seats. We also traveled with a carry-on stroller that we did not find much use for. Moses liked being held during our airport layovers. So we'll likely skip these accessories on our next trip.

For accommodation, we used a hotel in Kasese (Virina Gardens Hotel) because my house itself was not move-in ready for us. In Kampala, my sister vacated her master bedroom for our use, and in Kabale, my aunt boarded us in her rent-ready furnished home. We are grateful for this generosity because it saved us the expense of hotels, which are comparatively more expensive (for foreigners and tourists) than here in the US. A good hotel might cost about $60/night although you can always find cheaper alternatives if you know the right people. Make sure your room has air conditioning and mosquito nets over the beds. That fee also includes room-delivered breakfast.

Speaking of mosquito nets, we had brought some for our bed and Moses' crib. Late August is the end of the dry season and rains where expected when we were there. But there were no mosquitos, so we didn't really use the nets the last half of our trip. Even though, we were religious about taking our Malaria pills each day. The only other travel requirement for Uganda is a yellow fever shot.

Pretty early in the trip, we realized we needed to still maintain Moses' sleep schedule, so whatever we did happened after his naps. Thankfully, he did well with one nap most days and didn't experience jet-lag while we were there. We brought his pack-n-play so we can set up for him to sleep wherever we go as needed.

As soon as we arrived, my sister gave us a SIM card for phone service through MTN Uganda. Although Verizon claims I could have used my Galaxy Note 3 phone with it, it did not work. Luckily, I had borrowed an iPhone 4 from a friend back in CO and it worked perfectly there. I take note here that MTN is not the only network in the country; there are 3 more and they are incompatible. This means people carry around 2 or more phones for each network they are subscribed to, usually the ones where most of their friends and family are, because it is more expensive to call people out-of-network. Also, everything is pretty much prepay. Voicemail is not part of most service offers; you just keep trying all the person's numbers until you get a hold of them. Whatsapp is prevalent for those with smartphones.

In order to charge our American devices (phones, cameras, and for my blender), we bought a power converter to step down their 220/240V to 110/120V. But even with this, I managed to go through 3 batteries on the camera, with no further way to recharge them because I forgot to bring their charger. Regrets.

On our second day in-country, we needed to exchange dollars for Ugandan shillings. The exchange rate was UGX 3,500, but we found out this only applies to large denomination bills. Your $20, $10, $5 and $1 bills will be exchanged at a much lower rate. Outside of Kampala, the condition of the bill matters too: inked, old, or torn bills might not be accepted. With small bills, you can bargain for a better rate if you have a lot of them to exchange.

Speaking of bargaining, this is the way to shop in Ugandan markets. You can bargain on anything except in supermarkets or other formal venues. The prices are obviously hiked for foreigners (especially when they see a white person), so my strategy was to start my offer at half the price. A few times I consulted with any local I was traveling with whether the stated price was fair.

The markets didn't have as many fruits as I had hoped. I had planned to blend fruit shakes daily, so I brought my Bullet on the trip. Didn't use it even once, small disappointment. The food was otherwise excellent, food I had missed all these years living in the US. The only warning is that it is usually fried and heavy on the carbs. We didn't eat out much; my family and relatives provided most of the food we ate. Sometimes we ventured out for road snacks (gonja, bananas, and muchomo mostly). To avoid drinking tap water, sodas were the thirst-quenchers. One weird practice: if you want to take a (glass) bottled drink with you, you must bring an empty. Otherwise, you must drink it wherever you bought it and leave the bottle behind.

Things are cheaper in Kampala than they are upcountry, so if you want to do tourist-type shopping, Kampala is your best best for variety and price. Even exchange rates for the dollar are better there. Caution though that places such as the African Village (where they sell traditional art and other trinkets) are not cheap, because their target shopper is the tourist. I saw a good piece of art on canvas there priced at the equivalent of $100 and thought it wasn't for the average Ugandan. I've seen the same piece of African art for half that price in Denver.

The weather was fair the whole time we were there. I think it rained once or twice only. There is a day we got out to explore Kasese markets, and were drenched in sweat only a few hours into the expedition. The sun wasn't even shining per se (some cloud cover), but it was quite hot. Kabale had the best weather, save for the dusty atmosphere due to road construction in the town. Luckily, our transport also had air conditioning, although we didn't find out about it until 4 days into the trip.
To stay hydrated, we bought a cooler and filled it with frozen bottles of water (or added ice whenever we could). The cooler mostly stayed in the vehicle, as that's where we used it most. Eventually sodas and Moses' food ended up in it.

We spent a lot of time in the vehicle (on the road). Kampala to Kasese is 6 hours, and Kasese to Kabale about 5 hours (although we took a remote detour to drop off my sister at the hospital where she works/teaches). Kabale to Kampala took us 7 hours. Traffic in the towns and city is mayhem; no traffic control signals and lots of road construction. On one occassion, we hit traffic building up because the president was passing through. We passed a couple of bad accidents on the roads. The main roads are generally in good condition, and we had a good driver.

The driver, it turns out, is a distant relative of mine. At some point during the trip, he referred to an aunt of mine as his aunt. He spoke my mother tongue (Lukonjo). The language didn't come back to me as quickly as I thought it would, so we used English all through the trip. I understood when people spoke it, but I couldn't muster complete sentences beyond simple greetings. That's what 20 years of zero practice does to you. The driver found all this hilarious, my trying to speak the language.

This means that introductions to my various relatives also had to be in English. There also had to be a translator close by, in case those relatives didn't know English. We got introduced to so many relatives, most of whom I really did not know before, or whom I could not remember. It was sad somewhat to not remember someone that knows you well.

Uganda Trip: Travel To

Travel to Uganda from the US is a long affair, about 20-30 hours en route depending on what airline you choose. We opted for KLM mostly because of their service and total travel hours (25 hours from departure at COS to arrival at EBB). The first lesson from the get-go: all our US-connected flights were actually operated by Delta Airlines, which we didn't like. Next time we'll pay attention to this detail.

We started packing about 4 days before our departure. We were allowed 2 checked bags each (4 total, up to 50lbs each), plus 1 carry-on each (or 3 with baby artifacts). We couldn't check in online because of international travel with an infant, so we got to COS around 4:30am the Sunday we departed. There was a problem printing our boarding passes, holding us up for 45 minutes at check-in. Eventually we were on our way though, with stops in ATL and AMS.

When you travel with an infant, you must be creative on how you keep him entertained. We decided we'd maintain his feeding and sleep schedule as they were back home, using one of our phones in airplane mode to set timers and keep US time. What also worked was finding things he could spend hours distracted by: headphone jack in/out of receptacle, opening/shutting window shade, opening/closing containers and putting/removing stuff from said containers, etc. He was super friendly to people that showed interest in him, playing peek-a-boo with them for long chunks of time. It also helped to let him crawl in the airplane aisles (and wipe his hands with disinfectant as soon as he was done). He's not old enough for the kid entertainment on the flights, but he did really well we were so proud. On all our flights, people commended him on how good he did; we literally had no problems with him.

Amsterdam has "baby care lounges" in the lower floors of their terminals. These were a godsend in managing Moses' sleep. They are generally quiet (except for other babies' noises) and dark silos with a crib anyone can use. It was a good alternative from sleeping on our chests during flight, putting in 2.5 hours of a nap. We also tried to have naps there, but the available space outside the crib is frustratingly limited to allow laying down.

We arrived in Entebbe (EBB) around 11:45pm but didn't clear Ugandan immigration/customs and get our luggage until around 1am (Monday morning local time). But my sister and brother, along with some cousins were waiting for us outside, with our driver and ride. The trip from Entebbe to Kampala where we would spend the night took another hour due traffic and poor road conditions. This first van ride was a little bit rough on Angelene, throwing up and all. Blame the pregnancy hormones or air or something, but we are fortunate it wasn't anything lasting. We had dinner around 2am and turned in for the night, completing the first phase of this trip.

Uganda Trip Itinerary

One of our family goals this year is to travel to Uganda, during which trip Angelene and Moses will be formally introduced to my family there. I have not been to the country since 1996 (almost two decades), so this trip will be as much a homecoming for me as it will be a reintroduction to my relatives there.

We've thought about making this trip since before we were married, but it went into high gear after Moses was born. Really, the longer we waited, the more expensive it would be to make such a trip. So we committed to August (when he is a year old and fully immunized, but can still travel free of charge), and started saving for the trip. We found the best airline tickets through KLM. For a while though, we had been considering Emirates Air, through which we would have used a day-long layover in the UAE to visit Dubai and Abu Dhabi. That trip would however have been a total 35 hours, which I didn't think would be a good idea with a toddler in tow.

The most important part of this trip is on Sunday, August 23, when a reception luncheon will be hosted in honor of Angelene and Moses. This is when we expect to meet the majority of relatives. It will be preceded by a church ceremony of Thanksgiving in the morning, officiated by one of my grandparents (who is a bishop in the Protestant/Anglican denomination). We plan to be tourists for a day on a safari in the nearby Queen Elizabeth National Park the day before, and visit my land (as in, property I own) and house (which I've been slowly building for almost 10 years), among other things. It will be busy. This is why I have instituted some days of rest in the trip, so that we can all catch our breath and enjoy vacation. It looks like we'll be visiting with various relatives every other day we are not actively resting. I hope it won't be overwhelming.

Family Agile Board In Practice

We've been practicing family agility in our home for a few weeks now, and have forged our own flavor of the practice, starting with the use of an agile board. The board is simply a means to visualize our week and the activities thereof. Below are some observations that have been helpful to us:

(1) The board has only 4 sections: "To Do" (for everything that needs to be done this week), "Today" (for what will be tackled today), "Blocked" (for what was started but for whatever reason cannot be completed yet, such as when we are waiting for a response from somebody), and "Done" (for what is complete).

(2) We do a "daily standup" in the evenings Monday through Saturday. During the standup, we briefly talk about tasks in "Today" and move what is complete to "Done" or stuck items to "Blocked". This lasts less than 10 minutes, but it also gives us a chance to catch up on each other's day.

(3) On Sunday nights, we do a "retrospective" in which we recap the week: we go through the "Done" items and high-five each other for the accomplishments, gather lessons learned, and move weekly repeat tasks back to "To Do". We also look at the week ahead and back-fill "To Do" with new tasks. Then we do a quick standup for Monday. Having a view of the week at all times helps us coordinate our activities better.

(4) We feel that practicing agility this way has also been a benefit to our marriage. It has helped us be on the same page more often than not, and because we must plan each day together, we also know how to pray for each other throughout the day. The general awareness of what we are faced with also provides better opportunities to serve each other and work well together as a team. It also provides opportunity to hold each other accountable, encouraging us to do what we said we would.

(5) When a non-repeating task stays in "Today" for more than a day, I mark a strike on it. Tasks with too many strikes indicate poor planning, or taking on too much for the day, or thinking something is ready for action when it really wasn't, or not understanding the scope of the task comprehensively. Sounds all technical, but this method has helped us pace ourselves.

(6) When we do a retrospective, we are always surprised at how much we got done that week. Lots of things would have gone unnoticed that deserve a pat on the back. As a matter of fact, we are getting a lot more done these days, without feeling overwhelmed.

(7) There was some concern about what exactly should be on the board. In the end, we decided that if it something we want recognized, or that will take an hour or more of effort, or that we want to reflect on at the retrospective, is not super private, and is not a mundane daily activity (like brushing your teeth or breathing), then it can be on the board. Though, if brushing your teeth or breathing are "things you are working on", a reminder on the board can help.

(8) We considered using an online Kanban board, but we liked the visual aesthetic the physical agile board provides. We can actually stand up next to the board, and moving items among the section provides a "we did it" high. Also, the size of the board limits how much we sign up for each week. When we have tasks overflowing on the wall, we pause and ask ourselves whether we've taken on too much. Obviously the board will need to expand when Moses starts using it with us.

(9) We no longer have priorities attached to things, which in a way removes pressure to get things done. If something must be done quickly, then it is assigned to someone "Today". More urgency that that, activities will not be on the board. The practice is to just do it when it cannot wait or does not need consensus.

So as far as "things families do" go, we are keeping this practice. Our ultimate repositories of tasks and activities is Google Calendar, but abstracting out the week this way has been a boon to our livelihood.

That Brand New Ride

We are proud new owners of brand new 2015 Subaru Outback 2.5i Limited, acquired with only 32 miles on the odometer.

We had plans to replace our 2001 Nissan Maxima later this year, but it turned out we needed to replace the 2005 Subaru Outback L.L.Bean sooner because its frequency of mechanical problems was showing it to be the more unreliable transport. Our latest hint of a looming big repair had been a loudly ticking timing chain, which at 185k miles, meant an engine job that would have cost in the thousands of dollars. Still with original parts, many other small repairs would have been needed as well.

So earlier in the year, we started considering options. Our bottomline was that whatever vehicle we obtained, it'd need to be better than the Subaru we owned -- a bonified "upgrade". We considered the Honda Pilot, Toyota Versa, Audi Q5 kind, and Volvo XC90 kind, among others, and clearly avoided minivans. We wanted a newer model (2009 or later), something we could use over the next 15 years and give to Moses in his high school years. But as we looked at prices, they seemed to stick closer to new vehicle prices until after the vehicle is 6 years or older, when they start tapering down. So for the features we wanted, prices were close to $20k that eventually, we decided a new vehicle in that price range would make sense. The decision for the Subaru was augmented by its gasoline efficiency: 26mpg city/33mpg highway (28mpg effective). SUVs of this class are terrible at gasoline usage, yet another reason our old Subaru needed to go (it averaged 17mpg). I now drive 70 miles round-trip each day for work, so mileage was a high priority.

We started saving for a vehicle replacement sometime in 2013. As such, we were able to pay cash for this new Subaru. But even without need for financing, the purchase process was not straightforward: Heuberger (dealership) still presented me with paperwork for financing the vehicle (which I rejected), they still wanted to run my credit (which I originally refused but they made a condition for the trade-in), and they had me sitting around for 4 hours even when the vehicle was physically on the lot. As usual, they tried to sell me $1000-warranties that I had to decide on right there. Without the opportunity to think through them overnight, I ended up not getting any of the additional warranties. We spent an hour haggling over the value of my trade-in, which they unashamedly had estimated at half the blue-book value. Because of this, I had decided I wasn't going to purchase the car that day, until perhaps after I sell our old Subaru for a more reasonable price. But as I walked out, they called me back in and made a better offer for the trade-in. After "internet savings" (since I originally ordered the vehicle online), fees and taxes, we got the new car for about $26k (MSRP $32k).

So far, we are missing the V6 power our old Subaru had (the new one is an anemic 180hp 4-cyclinder), its small-car feel, and its smoother ride. This new Subaru feels very much like an SUV, humongous and tall. Without additional options (remote start, EyeSight and navigation), it has an not-so-modern technology package, the highlight of which is Bluetooth integration. Maybe down the road we will upgrade to these options. But by most accounts, it's a great replacement for our old Subaru. We are a Subaru family after all (a Colorado thing, I suppose).

The Moz Weaning Plan

As sure as the sun rises in the east, the time has come for Moses to begin weaning. Really, the process started back when he was 6 months of age, with the introduction of solid foods. Weaning normally lasts about 2 years, when an infant's nutrition is entirely from the family menu (no breast milk or supplement formula). But at this point, the specific actions are to phase out breastfeeding and diversify his food profile.

The plan then is to supplement his nutrition with baby formula (we use Similac) and introduce more solid foods, sometimes letting him eat from our plates (not talking mastication here). He is no longer actively nursing anyway (more conversant with bottle feeding), and his mother has stopped pumping because of a naturally dwindling supply. There is, however, about 3 weeks worth of breast milk in refrigeration, and that will be it for him.

Enter the Baby Brezza Formula Pro, our main tool for this supplementation stage. In less than 10 seconds, you can have a bottle of warm consistent formula ready to use. We don't have to prepare his night-time bottle before we go to sleep anymore -- it can instead be done on demand whenever he needs it. Which is a good thing, because sometimes we don't need to: these days, he's been sleeping almost throughout the night (down at 7pm, up at 5am or so). The plan is to reduce the supplementation the more he eats regular food, perhaps in the next 7 months.

The original plan, discussed before he was born, was to breastfeed him about a year. Obviously nature has its own mind, and we must adapt. It's a poignant milestone, I think.

Unemployed No More

My fourth week at the county has my plate as full as if I were an old-timer here, with the usual software development projects filling my ticket queue. But I'm not complaining: the job is a perfect match for my skills, has plenty of room to grow professionally, is quite flexible, and pays well (surprisingly competitive for a county government job). I am a Software Engineer III (senior level), responsible for implementing and maintaining integrations for the school district. By "integrations", I mean that when a couple of systems need to interface (exchange data or use each other's services), it is an integration that enables that sort of thing by providing a "bridge" or "adapter" for them to communicate.

The job is in Castle Rock, CO, about 40 miles door-to-door north of Colorado Springs where we live. It takes me 30-40 minutes to drive there in traffic, a much easier commute than when I worked in Denver for 3 weeks preceding this job. The county serves more than 8000 students, a considerable number of vendors, and thousands of teachers. I work in the student data and IT support services center, where a torrent of public school data are processed - everything from payroll to student grades and bus routes. It is a fun environment.

I was unemployed for 5 weeks total. My original intent had been to take a break from work (be unemployed) for 2-3 months, and had even qualified for unemployment benefits of $532/week. But during the second week, we realized we owed a crap ton to the IRS for 2014 (never mind a new baby and first home purchase, which we expected would give us great windfall). So I decided I would return to work as soon as possible to help cover the taxes we owed. Besides, technical recruiters also mentioned that long periods of unemployment would not look good on my résumé.

The job search was swift and lasted only 3 weeks. Everyday, I had a torrent of recruiter calls setting up phone interviews and such. I attended 5 in-person and 3 Skype interviews. I am blessed that my technical skills are currently in demand, with potential to fetch $40/hour or more on W-2 basis. I essentially had my pick of jobs, although my top 2 choices eventually didn't work out. One of them is still interviewing candidates to this day, and the other would only have been a 9-month contract without extension. My fifth choice was the first to make an offer, which is how I ended up in Denver for a while. Castle Rock was my third choice.

Because I was set up for this job by technical recruiters, I started out as a contractor for 2 months. In about 4 weeks, my hope is that I will be converted to a school district county employee. Except perhaps for the commute, this is as close to a perfect job as I could have hoped for. The commute itself is not bad: I now listen to podcasts more consistently during the commute.

Towards An Agile Family

I am a software engineer, and we use agile development methodologies at work. Scrum and Kanban are the life we live. I had never thought of using these methodologies outside of work until I saw this TEDTalk by Bruce Feiler, in which he explains that agile methodologies can lead to happier families by reducing stress and helping to better manage busy lifestyles.



After watching the TEDTalk with my wife, we decided we could institute some agility in our family, and immediately started doing daily standups. Every morning, we take 15 minutes to discuss three questions:
(1) How did yesterday go?
(2) What is our schedule like today?
(3) Are there any issues preventing us from making progress?

When there are issues, a quick plan of action is discussed and may lead to changes in how we approach the tasks or projects that are affected. The idea is for daily standup to be more informative than it is a planning session.

The immediate benefit has been improved communication and mindfulness of each other throughout the day. What else do we hope to gain from this? Easier change management, helping each other when common problems are encountered, being on the same page more often, and ability to create, modify or eliminate rules and expectations based on what is and what is not working. We think it will promote teamwork and provide opportunity to serve each other.

So far, the daily standup is all we have in place. Lots of families are doing agility successfully; we hope this becomes a mainstay, slowly but surely.

Not Resolutions But Prayers

We don't do resolutions. We do goals. There is a subtle difference between the two, although most people use them interchangeably. We do goals with prayers. "Unless the LORD builds the house, those who build it labor in vain" (Psa.127:1).

If we still had any doubts that God answers prayer, they were resolved in 2014. Everything we prayed for was practically answered, and then some. We started 2014 praying for a 15% increase in income somehow, to find a good house, and for our son to be born healthy. Moses was born in August, we found and bought a beautiful home in April, and ended the year with 60% more income than we anticipated. Additionally, we changed jobs, and got on track to get my identity paperwork replaced. It was such a year that just went right in all aspects, we really cannot complain.

This year, our goals are few and simple: (1) travel to Uganda in August or September, (2) find permanent employment by May, and (3) replace our second vehicle with a newer and larger one in the summer. The year will have been successful if these three goals are achieved. Our 4th wedding anniversary trip this year will be to Nashville, Tennessee in April and we shall spend Christmas in Seattle, WA. There are probably one or two more domestic trips in there, for the love of travel.

Besides goals, we also set commitments. My wife's year-long focus is on joy as her word of the year. My focus turns to minimalism (living on less). Our combined commitments are to be content with what we have and where we are in life.

More importantly, we pledge to be good parents to Mozy even if we have to wing it sometimes. We will do anything for the welfare of this sweet face. We want his childhood to be a great story, however that will unfold.

Yes, these sound like resolutions but we consider them prayers for the year. So God help us.