This Year's Devotional

As we have done (almost) everyday since we got married, we do devotionals in the morning during breakfast. This year, we will be engrossed in "The One Year Love Language Minute Devotional" by Gary Chapman. A week into it so far, we like how this devotional is reminding us of things we ought to continually do as a married couple, little things that we had began to neglect.

I personally am not big on the whole "love language" movement that is prevalent in the church today, but I do see its value: that couples ought to learn to communicate love to each other. I think that although people might have a few ways they prefer to communicate or express love, you can learn other ways as well. So I do not see the point of being hedged into one "language" other than having it be the first step towards a diversity of expression. As you may guess, I do not feel like I have a specific love language, which is quite frustrating for my wife to contend with. Yes, I have done the love language test twice and wound up with two different designations (touch and acts of service).

In agreeing to do this devotional however, my goal is to learn enough about how my wife communicates and how I should communicate for her to feel loved. It may be through one of these languages or other ways that are uniquely hers. Maybe I'll find out I have a language too, although I maintain that any one works for me, as long as I recognize the intent and effort to express love through it. It's really all about effective communication in a marriage.